Monday, November 24, 2008

What I Didn't Do Yesterday

I did not write yesterday.

I did not do the Thanksgiving grocery shopping. I did not clean the house, or do the laundry. I didn't even rake the leaves.

I did not spend time with my children, or my husband.

I did not critique queries in Writer's Exercises on the Compuserve Books and Writers Forum. I did not critique chapters for my critique group.

I didn't work.

I did not watch TV, or make Christmas cards, or finish that baby quilt.

What did I do?

Almost a year ago, a friend of mine lost her husband. Loosing a spouse must be difficult at any age, but as a young adult, I can't imagine the pain. For me, the hardest part would be the lost moments - those memories never made. The unrealized opportunities - because there just wasn't enough time.

It's been a difficult year for my friend, and emotions are still raw. But healing is a step by step process, and yesterday she took another big step. Three of us spent the day yesterday (and well into the evening) making a memory quilt. The quilt is made up of cut-up sections of her husband's pants and shirts, and while the process of cutting up the cloths to create the pieces was a tearful one, the process of sewing them together to form something new was a moment of healing.

So how did I spend my time yesterday? Just exactly the
right way.


Tara Parker said...

I can't imagine a nicer thing for a friend to do.


Jennifer Hendren said...

Awww. That's awesome, Jenny!

Jenny Graman Meyer said...

Tara and Jen,
Thanks! Quilting is a good creative outlet too! But I know this quilt will be important to her for a long time to come. She had her family down and Thanksgiving, and they all helped her sew buttons on - so it was really a group effort.